There is a great website, http://www.sociopathworld.com  while I was looking around I came across an article about getting the sociopath to leave.  Here is an excerpt:

"The truth is that you and your sociopath have formed a symbiotic relationship. You may think you owe him nothing, but the relationship matters to the sociopath in ways you cannot guess or understand. You may think the sociopath respects your boundaries, but the sociopath will not be sympathetic to your assertions of your needs. The sociopath does not have or respect boundaries. The sociopath has his needs, too, and will fight to make sure that they are met. You do not want to get into an all-out fight with a sociopath when the sociopath feels like his survival is threatened. You will lose.

With a sociopath, the best thing to do is to make the breakup seem like it was his or her choice. Like with ticks or other parasites, you want to poison the well so the sociopath willingly leaves. Become a helpless, emotionless, reactionless burden. Start being contrary, without being openly defiant. If the sociopath likes to go out, develop a preference for staying in. Stop bathing. Focus on work. Pretend you're tired, sick, depressed, say you forgot your keys, you forgot to feed the goldfish, be incompetent but make everything seem like an accident. If the sociopath gets mad, say sorry, but don't fight back. Say "I don't know what's come over me." Have long phone conversations with your mother or other people the sociopath hates. In general, let yourself go completely and be as intolerable to live with as possible without being confrontational. This may seem very passive-aggressive, but after about three months (give or take), the sociopath will be out of your life. You should be in the clear after your sociopath has been gone three to six months. By that time the sociopath will not need you to satisfy any of his basic needs, and will see you instead for what you really are probably a weak-willed whining sissy."

The ironic thing is that this excerpt details my behavior over the last number of years.  In much the same way Bob created my dependencay on him I let him.  I became dependent upon him, but I also didn't feel much emotion towards him in the last stages.. I felt less emotion when I found the masturbation videos he'd been circulating on twitter and facebook and who knows where else. Honestly, who knows how many were made, I'm sure there's more of them in existance.   

I now know that it was this behavior, this sleazy, rauncy behavior was in fact his way of finding a new victim.  He had already decided to leave but knew he had to stay until he had a check from his lawsuit against Value City Furniture (more abouot that later).  He was putting himself out on twitter and other places to find a place to go.

What I find funny is that in his controlling me, my every move, my life he created his own downfall.  You see, he is an emotionless creature and is not capable of empathy.  What he had created was someone who no longer cared, who no longer tried and asked him for help, help he was unable to give because he is incapable of kindness or responsibility.  All he knows is how to suck people in with lies to make them feel sorry for him. 

Once you are in his grasp he will begin the process of bleeding you dry, first money, then emotion and he uses sex as a means of control, witholding it if you anger him and forcing himself if he feels he is no longer in control and has to regain you.  The violence comes as a response to his being challenged.

The more his grasp slips the more unpreditable, violent and manipulative he becomes.